There’s so much power in the smallest actions and it costs you nothing to put a smile on your spouse’s face. Sure, beautiful gestures like dinner dates, random flowers, and doing house chores to lighten the spouse’s loads are all great things to put a smile on their faces. But there’s something so much smaller that can do the job too. One simple text. Yup, text messages. It takes two seconds and free.

Are the text messages between you and your spouse always about chores, kids, and work? “hey honey, can you pick up milk?”, “don’t forget, kid’s game at 5p today!” or “work is stressing me out sooooooo much.” When was the last time you spontaneously sent a simple text telling them how much you love them and appreciate them? You know, the kind of text that gets them blushing. The kind of text that keeps them going. Oh yes, the kind of text that gets them wanting to come home right away to see you. See, foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts throughout the day and a simple text can do just the trick. What’s more? Sexting not required. Unless, of course, you’re into those too. These small texts don’t have to be anything sexual or suggestive.

• “I love you”
• “Hey handsome/beautiful!”
• “I’m so proud of you!”
• “Thank you for working so hard for our family.”
• “I can’t wait to see you when I/you get home!”

• “There are some hugs and kisses (and maybe more) waiting for you when you get home.”
• “Can’t stop thinking about you!”
• “You are the best!”
• “Thank you for being so good to me.”
• “Remember when ____? That just made me laugh/smile.”

If you want to spend a couple of bucks, and this couple of bucks can go a long way, try sticky notes instead of or in addition to the text messages. Stick them in random and unexpected places. Some of my favorites are on the mirror, lunch boxes, or even steering wheel. Write down things you love about them or things you appreciate them for. It is just as effective as the random texts.

• “you are so HOT!”
• “Can’t wait to see you after work!”
• “Thank you for loving me in my imperfections.”
• “Marrying you was definitely the right move.”
• “We go together like ___.”
• “I cherish our moments together.”
• “Thank you for being my best friend.”
• “Thank you for providing for us.”
• “I love you because ______”

Sure, some may sound cheesy, but it will put a smile on their faces. So, let’s not wait any longer, go ahead and shoot your boo a text!

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